Time Wounds All Heels

Mia at the Kensington Mixer

Mia at the Kensington Mixer

Sooner or later, every author has to submit to the indignity of a headshot. The problem for me is that my mental image of myself is several years younger and very much leaner than the real thing. It’s always a shock to see myself captured on film.

Who is that? I wonder. She seems to have my eyes.

At some point, I reached the conclusion that I am what I am. The prednisone I take for a lung condition (managing well with it. Thank you, God!) has caused my hair to become brittle, so I decided not to continue to stress it by coloring the gray. That led to a less than flattering “skunk- do” (very sad silver stripe down my part). I was determined to be bold and have it cut. Short.

Mia at the 2012 RT Bookfair

Mia at the 2012 RT Bookfair

I’ve hardly ever had short hair. Each time I’ve felt it was a mistake and comforted myself with the knowledge that hair grows back.

But this time it feels right. The silver is overtaking nicely and when the artificially dark is all cut out, I’ll still have plenty of pepper to mix with the salt. I’m entering my “platinum period.”

Of course, this means I’ll have to give up the Glamour Shots pic of myself here on the website. It’s from 5 years, several pounds and lots of dark hair ago. I don’t want readers not to recognize me when we meet IRL.

When I went to Amsterdam in 2010, I had a chance to meet up with Nynke. (If you’re a regular here on my blog you’ll recognize her as ‘Dr. Nynke,’ a frequent commenter!) I had to be sure to warn her that I didn’t look much like my website picture and told her I’d be wearing a hot pink cap. Bless her heart, her comment was that she was surprised that I’m so ‘tiny.’ By that she meant ‘short,’ but I’ll take it. Nynke’s probably the only person on the planet who would describe me as ‘tiny.’ ;-)

Anyway, I’m planning to have a new author picture taken at the RWA Conference in Anaheim this July. Now the only decision to make is what color from my website I should try to wear. What do you think? Purple, pink, green, red, or gold? Help me decide or you know me and colors. I’ll probably default to black.

17 thoughts on “Time Wounds All Heels

  1. Mal Olson says:

    Hi Mia,

    It was so great to finally meet you at the author’s appreciation luncheon in Oak Creek. Now I’ve got two Mia books to look forward to–Touch of a Thief that I bought at the luncheon and How to Distract a Dutchess on my Kindle. I don’t read a lot of historical romance, but your writing is wonderful and I gobble up everything I can find. (Started with MaidenSong a few years back.)

    As far as color for your author photo, I agree that you look smashing in the bright pink with a dark color underneath. You’re beautiful in so many ways. Thanks for all the help you give to struggling authors.

    I look forward to guesting on your blog one of these days.

    Mal Olson

  2. Barbara Elness says:

    I think your hair looks fabulous that color and the cut is very cute. I’d say wear red or purple, something bright and cheerful.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Bright and cheerful it is! Thanks, Barbara.

  3. Mia, I LOVE your new short hair! As far as the color goes on what you should wear. I would pick a color, not to match your blog, but that complements you and that you think you look great in. More than likely it will be the new picture that you share on other sites as well so matching would be kind of hard. But I would do something with more color than black.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Good point! I should have remembered that my profile pic travels with me through cyberspace.

  4. Barbara Britton says:

    Hi Mia,

    I like your pictures on the blog today. I would recognize you.
    My headshot is in purple–happens to be my favorite color. I would go with vibrant colors and an interesting necklace.Jewelry catches my eye in photographs.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Jewelry… hmmm. Now there’s an idea with merit!

  5. It is always hard to face that we still don’t look the way we remember ourselves…I haven’t updated my actress head shot in about a decade…and a few things (like 2 kids and general aging) have definitely taken their toll! But you’re right, much better to be Real to who you are now (which is pretty amazing, btw!)- your readers will respect you for your honesty :)

    As for color…I think you look great in that pic with the pink cardigan…maybe black as your base and something bright over it? Actually the pink/magenta of How to Distract a Duchess would look great with the silver locks I think. (PS – the hero on that cover is yummy in a bad boy kinda way)

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Thanks for the color suggestions, Melonie. I think you’re onto something.

      And oh-my-fanning-myself, yes! My hero on HOW TO DISTRACT A DUCHESS is hotness incarnate.

  6. Marcy W says:

    First, agree with above comments, especially Dr Nynke’s equation :-).
    I too like the new ‘do, and if black is comfortable, wear that. Maybe add a splash of color in a scarf (I do like that green boa!), or a pin, or something?? The other thought I had was: is it time for new glasses?? About six months ago I got new ones, more horizontal, and not wire-rimmed, they’re not-quite-tortoiseshell brown, and they changed my face quite a bit — according to others, in a good way.
    But, whatever you wear, your smile is the only thing that truly matters. If you’re genuinely happy (and you seem to be, to this observer), it’ll come through the camera just fine, and is the best ‘beautification’ product there is. When you face the camera, think of all of us who love you and your writing … it’ll be gorgeous, I promise!

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Actually, those are my new glasses. Prince Harry ate the earpieces off my old ones. I know the more horizontal style is fashionable now, but I find myself seeing only the frames with those smaller lenses.

  7. Nynke says:

    Hi Mia,

    wow, short hair! Very different, but it does look really good on you!
    I think I’d go for pink – it seems to suit you on that RT picture and it goes with some of the headings :).

    Also, I still think of you as tiny and cute (short + cute = tiny. it’s a law…)


  8. Jane l says:


    You looked amazing in the gold and black outfit for Foxy Dames. I think you should think about that color combination.

    I like your new look! It’s you, it fits your style and personality. As your friend and fans, we would rather
    You be healthy and happy, than care about hair color!
    I struggle with the hair, weight , ect and it’s just our human nature to be self conscious of our appearance .

    I honestly thought you had a definite vibrance about you
    this year.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Jane, you’re such a doll! It was so great catching up with you in Chicago and seeing those grandbaby pics.

      On the healthy front, I’ve been hitting the treadmill two days in a row. How many does it take to form a new pattern of behavior?

  9. Mia, I think both the pictures you included in the post are great, because you look genuinely happy. So for your new photo–if black is your favorite color to wear, go for it! Whatever makes you feel the most comfortable and relaxed.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Thanks, Theresa. I don’t know that black is my favorite. I just seem to default to it. I love purple and pink, but if you look at my closet, I swear sometimes, it looks like a bunch of nuns have been using it to hang extra habits.

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