My Personal Baby Watch

The eyes of the world are on the Duchess of Cambridge and the royal baby she’s about to deliver. I wish her so well. God send her a speedy delivery and healthy child. But I have another expectant mother on my mind this morning.

She’s my sister.

Jen

My beautiful sister

She’s not carrying a child who will one day be a king or queen. Or even my future niece or nephew. She’s serving as a surrogate for a childless couple and expects to deliver twins to their waiting arms. The couple struggled with infertility for years and are so grateful that my sister was willing to be implanted with their fertilized egg.

It hasn’t been an easy process. My sister had to go through months of hormone treatments and three attempts before she became pregnant. She’s had four children of her own, but is finding carrying twins a different experience. (Image 4 little feet drumming on your bladder instead of 2!) But she’s taking it all in stride with her typical open-hearted good grace. Good thing, since she has a couple of months to go. Bless her for helping another family like this. She’s a real life heroine, IMHO.

Infertility is a growing problem. So many couples long for children and doing what comes naturally just isn’t doing the job. Fortunately, medical science offers some options. So does adoption.

What do you think? Have you experienced difficulty having children? Know someone who has? Have you adopted a child? There are so many children waiting for homes, but that process is not without challenges and delays. I’d love to hear your thoughts about this deeply personal issue.

14 thoughts on “My Personal Baby Watch

  1. Marcy Shuler says:

    It took us years of trying and months of fertility drugs to get pregnant with our first son. The second one volunteered to join our family. LOL They’re 11 months and one week apart in age and I was just past the first trimester when I found out about him. Right now they’re both 17 until the eldest turns 18 in two weeks.

    Your sister is an amazing woman, Mia!

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      I have a dear friend who was told by her doctor she’d never conceive so she and her husband adopted a little girl. Three years later, against all odds, my friend became pregnant and had another girl. The chosen one and the unexpected blessing, they loved them both!

      1. Sarah R. says:

        I use the term “unexpected Blessing” when I talk about my youngest. It is much nicer than “the oops” and it really is appropriate because he is such a blessing to our family.

        1. Mia Marlowe says:

          Both our children were surprises. We like to say God was our family planner!

  2. Mia,

    What a blessing your sister is to the childless couple. She is a real trooper, and her family deserves kudos too.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      She’s having a rough patch now as she passes 30 weeks, but she’s determined to carry the twins as long as she can. I know she’d appreciate your prayers.

  3. Marcy W says:

    Sisters are the best! My younger sister is my hero as well, for different reasons. I’m happy to say that I know yours, Mia, and Jen is indeed a beautiful soul, happy and cheerful, and a great mom. I’ve not seen her recently, but she was glowing with good health and happiness last time I met her (at Walmart, of course!), and if anyone can carry these two little souls to their due date, it’s Jen … she’s also determined and very capable. :)

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      She really enjoys going over to my folks and lolling in the pool. Takes all the pressure off her belly.

  4. Sarah R. says:

    As I said on facebook, this is such a beautiful gift to give to someone. Such an amazing thing your sister is doing. One of my old high school friends was a surrogate two years ago and also had twins (a boy and a girl) for a loving couple who couldn’t have kids on their own.
    I have always been fascinated with the topics of infertility,adoption and invitro. I wrote most of my college papers on those subjects. I always wondered if my “fascination” was a forewarning about what my life would hold, but as it turns out I didn’t any issues with infertility. I have four wonderful boys, including a set of identical twins. I do however have several friends who struggle or have struggled with infertility and I think maybe my fascination was so I could be more understanding of what they are going through.
    I also always wanted to adopt a child, but with three of our boys having autism and our financial situation it doesn’t look like that will be happening.
    I pray the last couple months of your sister’s pregnancy goes well. Twins often come early as I am sure she knows. I hope she makes it to term with them. Mine were born at 33 and half weeks and were 4 pounds each. My sister in-law had twins last year and made it to 39 weeks and they were both over 6 pounds. I am sure you will let us know when they are born.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      My sister’s twins are about 3 pounds a piece now. She’d like to carry them to 39 weeks, but she’s getting pretty weary. It’s hard for her to breathe but she wants to make it to term to give those new little lives the best possible chance.

      I’ll keep you posted!

  5. JenJewell says:

    Thank you sweetie, I am honored you felt inspired to write about me. This is a wonderful journey we have been on. It is an awesome thing to be able to bring a life or lives into the world for someone else. I have no regrets even when they have their tootsies up under my ribs. Its still amazing! “Nine more weeks till 38 weeks”

    Anna I admire your birth mother for being so selfless and allowing you to have a better life. That takes great courage! I can’t imagine how hard it must have been for her, bless her heart.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      You’ve inspired me more than you know. In my current WIP (which will be an October 2014 release from Kensington), my hero and heroine are struggling with childlessness. Unfortunately in 16th century Scotland, they didn’t have the IVF/surrogate option. It’s wrenching to write, but it’s a story that is bursting to be told.

  6. Anna Bowling says:

    Mia, congratulations and blessings on your sister and the expectant parents. How beautiful that there are so many ways for families to come together. I’m adopted, and very thankful that my birth mother gave me (and as I found out later, my older biological siblings) a chance at a better start than she could give. If I could say one thing to her, I would say “Thank you. You made the right choice.”

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Anna, I’m so glad you bless your birth mother for making the hard choice to give you loving adoptive parents. You have a beautiful attitude.

      Thanks for sharing.

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