Blue Christmas

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‘Tis the season for insane shopping, endless parties, kid’s programs and Christmas pageants. It’s no wonder some people find themselves fresh out holiday spirit. If you add financial pressures like a layoff or unexpected expense (like a car suddenly refusing to start. Mine turned into a big paperweight in the garage overnight for some inexplicable reason!) the “Christmas Blues” can start to multiply. Maybe you’ve experienced a big change in your life over the last year. Maybe you had to move away from friends and family or the last kid left home. Perhaps you got divorced or suffered the loss of someone dear to you.

Whatever the reason, you may be tempted to look back at previous Christmases and wish you could turn back the clock. Something has happened to alter your expectations and this year Christmas looks bleak. Life will never be the same.

You’re right. Life never will be the same. Because you’ll never be the same. We are the product of our experiences, the people we surround ourselves with, the books we read and the thoughts we think. Change is the only constant. The old saying, “You can’t step twice into the same stream” is so true.

So do we have to resign ourselves to the idea that life will never be the same? Yes, but that’s ok. Life may never be the same, but I also believe it can be better.

Whatever your situation, I’m hoping to remind you that what “is” will not always “be.” My dogs are always so despondent when we leave them and so overjoyed when we return. Unfortunately, they can’t imagine beyond ‘now,’ and can’t comfort themselves with the idea that they won’t be shut up in their very cushy little crates forever.

But people are not dogs. We know “this too shall pass.” If you’re experiencing Christmas blues, let me assure you that whatever your situation is, it isn’t forever. Lest you think I’m being pollyannish, let me just share that I’ve had Christmases where the budget was so tight my DH and I had to sell our class rings in order to buy presents for our kids. Presents for each other were out of the question. Then there was a Christmas when we were both unemployed, and I so believed we’d have jobs by December the 25th. It didn’t happen. On December 26th, we still didn’t have jobs. In 2008, I spent Christmas recovering from cancer surgery (Three years clean and counting. Thank you, God!)

Sometimes things happen beyond my control. At times like that, I focus on the only thing I can control–my attitude. I try to cultivate a sense of gratitude for the people in my life, for the things I have, for the health I enjoy. It really does help.

If you’re struggling this Christmas, please know that you’re not alone. Someone cares and I’m not just talking about me. I’m talking about Someone with a big old capital S. God cares and I hope your faith will help you through whatever you’re experiencing.

Chin up, my friend. This blue Christmas will pass.

12 thoughts on “Blue Christmas

  1. Shakespeare says:

    My Christmas last year was sad–moving across the country, without a home from Dec. 18th to February 4. It was fantastic just being able to put up a tree in a real house this year, to have my daughter’s birthday cookie-decorating party, etc.

    I’m more in the Christmas mood than I have been in years. For me, it isn’t the presents that matter. It’s the music, the cheer, the people. The only thing I would like a little of is snow.

    The card is absolutely lovely.

    1. Mia says:

      I’m so glad things are looking up for you this year, Shakespeare! I know what you mean about the presents being the least important. Our oldest daughter is flying in TODAY! That’s the best gift I could possibly receive.

  2. Deb says:

    Thank you for such a wonderful, inspiring message, Mia.

    The pastor of my church began having a Blue Christmas service a few years ago and he has it a few days before Christmas as well as a few days after Christmas. If nothing else, it is a time for people who are sad or grieving to come sit in quiet payer after an uplifting Message.

    Merry CHRISTmas to you and yours!

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Hi Deb. I think part of why people sometimes feel especially depressed over Christmas is that they think they are the only ones. Our church has a Blue Christmas service too to comfort those who are struggling. After all, the first Christmas wasn’t all ribbons and bows. Giving birth in a stable isn’t exactly a weekend at the Hilton. But God reveals Himsef in simple things.

  3. Barbara Britton says:

    Merry Christmas to you and your family Mia. Many blessings in 2012.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      2011 has been a very blessed year for us. I’m so much healthier than 2010. That alone is a gife rich enough that I really can’t ask for anything else. Hope your Christmas is very special!

  4. eli yanti says:

    merry christmas Mia and hope everyone have a wonderful christmas ;)

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Thanks, Eli. Merry Christmas to you too!

  5. Clair Carter says:

    What comforting words, Mia. I’d echo them wholeheartedly. It’s only a day and it will soon be gone until next year. The real meaning of Christmas is available 365 days a year and requires no credit cards. Thank God. Wishing you continued good health Mia.

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Wishing you and your fam a wonderful Christmas, Clair.

  6. Mal Olson says:

    This card and message is beautiful.

    Mal

    1. Mia Marlowe says:

      Thanks, Mal. Hope your Christmas is blessed.

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